As summer vacation comes to a close and school supplies start to hit the shelves, many families begin to feel that familiar mix of excitement and anxiety. While a new school year brings fresh opportunities, it can also bring feelings or worry and stress to the surface, especially for students who struggle with change, social pressure or academic expectations. If your child is feeling anxious about going back to school, they are not alone, and neither are you. Here is how you can recognize the signs of back-to-school anxiety and what you can do to support mental wellness for your entire family.
Understanding Back to School Anxiety
Back to school anxiety can take many forms. Some students may worry about making friends, getting good grades, or finding their way around in a new school. Others may feel overwhelmed by returning to school routines or facing social situations after such a long break. Common signs of anxiety in students include:
- Trouble sleeping
- Changes in appetite
- Complaints about headaches or stomachaches
- Irritability or mood swings
- Withdrawal from social activities
- Reluctance to go to school
- Excessive worry about performance
It is important to remember that these behaviors are not simply “nerves”, they are signals that your child might need extra support.
How Parents and Caregivers Can Help
You do not need to be a therapist to support your child’s mental health. Here are some ways to create a calm, connected environment that encourages emotional wellbeing:
- Help Children Adjust to a Routine – Ease the transition by gradually reintroducing school year routines before classes begin. Regular bedtimes, screen limits, and morning rituals can help children feel more secure.
- Talk About It and Listen – Invite open conversations about their worries. Instead of trying to “fix” their feelings immediately, validate them by saying, “It’s okay to feel nervous. A lot of people feel that way before school starts.”
- Set Realistic Expectations – Academic success is important but so is protecting mental and emotional wellbeing. Emphasize effort over perfection and help your child understand that mistakes are a part of learning.
- Practice Relaxation Techniques – Teach simple tools like deep breathing, journaling, or listening to a calming playlist. Even something like a short walk can help regulate emotions and reduce stress.
- Stay Connected with Teachers and Counselors – Educators are important people in your child’s mental health journey. If you notice ongoing anxiety, let the school staff know because they may be able to provide additional support or resources.
Supporting the Whole Family’s Mental Health
When one family member is anxious, it often affects the entire household. Here is how to protect your own wellness while supporting your child:
- Model Healthy Coping – Show your child that it is okay to ask for help, set boundaries, and prioritize self-care.
- Check In with Yourself – Transitions not only affect students, but they can also affect adults too. Practice mindfulness, seek support from others or talk to a therapist if you are feeling overwhelmed.
- Celebrate the Small Wins – Whether it is surviving the first week of school or your student is making a new friend, acknowledge moments of progress and resilience for your child and yourself.
When to Seek Help
If your child’s anxiety persists for more than a few weeks and interferes with their daily functioning, it may be time to reach out to a mental health professional. Early support can make a lasting difference.
Back to school anxiety is a natural part of transitioning out of summer vacation, but with patience, preparation and support, it does not have to define the school year. The Lehigh Center for Clinical Research is here to help you, and your family navigate this period through therapy and support. If you are interested in learning more about treating mental health issues like anxiety, contact us today.
